This post is written by my friend. She's now an beautiful, happy Asian wife now.
When I was single I went on a dating frenzy. Seriously. I think it's a rite of passage that most people need to go through. Not everyone needs this, but at the time I know I needed to date a lot. Maybe my ego needed it more than anything, but nonetheless, I'm grateful that I had the experience. The majority of men I met came from dating online. And once again, I'm grateful for the opportunity that online dating afforded me. I never would have met a lot of these guys if it had not been for my loyal and faithful Asian dating website.
I only used one site at the time, but I know quite a few people use more than one site to broaden their horizons and have more choices. Sometimes, there is overlap of people who are doing the same thing, and you wind up meeting the same guys on other sites anyway. If you narrow your field, which means choosing a specific geographic location and a person who doesn't smoke, doesn't have a cat and isn't a major party animal (for instance) then you'll probably keep meeting the same men or same type of men anywhere you go.
So what I'm trying to say is that you don't necessarily have to go to multiple sites to find the vast array of choice that is out there in the dating world. Just by simply choosing to date online in the first place will open up a world of opportunity for you. Trust me; I have been there. Not all the dates were great—you certainly can't expect that to happen, but on the other hand, I met a lot of cool men and like I said before, I'm really happy that I was able to experience the flurry of dating activity I had back in my single days.
Did I meet my current guy online? I sure did, Asian ladies and western gentleman. Where else? And we are going strong and will be hitting our one-year mark in just a couple of weeks. He had also dated quite a bit before meeting me and I'm very glad we both got it out of our system. By the time he and I met, we were ready to stop all that dating and we both wanted to get off the dating site and into a real relationship. So the timing was perfect, and frankly, that goes for every couple out there. A lot of relationship success simply comes from timing. If your timing is off, then I don't care how crazy you are about each other, things just have a way of not working out. It's unfortunate, but it happens a lot. You just have to go with the flow and realize, perhaps this person, at this time of your life, is not the one for you.
You will meet more people by dating online, than if you continue to randomly or not so randomly meet them in real time. Sure, your friends can set you up, but how many single people do your friends know? Unless you're still in college or something, and the single to couple ratio is still really high, then I suggest you find yourself a decent dating website and start hitting that scene. Have yourself your own little dating frenzy until the right one comes along, or you're too tired to want to go out every night of the week. Whichever comes first!